I’ve written about grief a few times now (you can find my first post here, and my second here), it’s something close to my heart and something I think isn’t spoken about enough. But recently it’s cropped up again for me so I thought I’d put pen to paper again, especially given the time of year.
I remember when I lost my Mum people said that grief wouldn’t go away. And I’ll be honest, I didn’t believe them. After all I was doing all the work, seeing a therapist, working through the pain, and at this point the pain had lessened. It wasn’t the all encompassing heart breaking feeling. So I thought it must go away eventually, and with enough time.
But they were right, it doesn’t. In my experience it comes and it goes. Day to day it’s barely there after 10 years but then something happens, or nothing happens and it’s there again. Sometimes to the point that I can feel my heart breaking again.
I love the quote ‘Grief is the price we pay for love’ by the wonderful Queen Elizabeth II, because without love we wouldn’t grieve and in my mind that can only be a good thing.
So as Christmas is approaching, a time when we can feel the absence of our loved ones a little bit more, just go with it. Don’t fight it, be with the tears, the sadness, the anger. And just know that’s it’s because we had a great love that we grieve so much.
On Monday 4th December I’ll be doing a Facebook live with Suzy Reading all about grief, here are all the details.