Yesterday I went to see Jack Kornfield in London, Jack trained as a Buddhist Monk in Thailand, India and Burma and now teaches Buddhist psychology and meditation all over the world.
Yesterday he ended with this “Everything you need is within you.”
So often we look outside ourselves for answers. We compare ourselves to others, we look at what others are doing and we ask others for their opinion.
But what if all you already know the answers? What if you knew what’s right for you all along?
Let me tell you, you do.
You just need to trust it.
No-one knows you like you, no-one knows how you’re truly feeling.
And often friends and family, and those we might turn to aren’t objective. They want to protect you and keep you safe. But sometimes it’s OK to do something that your friends and family may not agree with or understand.
That’s OK, that’s what being you and true to you is all about.
Try this practice
- Find somewhere comfortable to sit, if you’re used to meditation perhaps sit in your usual meditation spot, if not just sit on a chair or on your bed. Just find some quite space.
- Close your eyes, listen to the silence.
- Now tune into your breath, in and out, in and out – don’t worry about the thoughts coming and going, they do that! Just come back to your breath each time you notice your mind has wondered, and do this gently.
- Once you’ve sat for a few minutes, once you can feel your body settle down ask yourself a question, any question. Perhaps something that’s been on your mind, perhaps it’s something that comes to you in that moment.
- And then listen for the answers – don’t get logical about it, don’t think about it, notice the first thing that come into your mind. Notice it and trust it. It may make sense, it may not, that’s OK.
- Sit for a few more minutes in your own space. Notice if anything else comes up.
- Then take your journal and write down what you’ve just been told. You may want to write something more about it.
We all have the answers within us, sometimes it’s just about quietening down, tuning out all the noise, all the other opinions, all the ‘shoulds’ and finding the space to really tune in.
And if there’s doubt, if you’re not sure, wait. Clarity will come, just give it time. You don’t need to push it or force it.
Jack also has some wonderful meditation practices which you can find on his website here.
‘Look after yourself first and then you’ll have the energy for everything else’
Nicky is a registered nutritional therapist who takes an integrative approach that works on both the body and the mind. She’s passionate about teaching women (and Mums) to look after themselves first, so that they can be there for their children and have the energy for whatever life has in store.
Nicky qualified from The Institute for Optimum Nutrition in 2009 and is registered with The British Association for Nutrition and Lifestyle Medicine (BANT), and the Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC).