Today I should be at a seminar all to do with stress, instead I’m at home, still in my PJs with my family.
I haven’t had a weekend free in over a month and this week, with my daughter being ill as well, I’ve started to feel it. So I made the decision not to go. I listened to what my body was telling me, and it was definitely telling me to rest.
Sometimes we feel like we should do things because we’ve already committed to them or because we don’t want to miss out. But it’s OK to change plans, it’s OK to say no, especially when your body is giving you signals that you need to slow down.
The other thing to think about is not to over-commit, don’t put too much in the diary. I always look forward and around my diary to see what else is going on before I commit to something. And I say no when I need to.
It’s OK to put yourself first, to listen to what your intuition is telling you. Whether it’s committing to plans, taking on additional work, helping a friend out or even a children’s party!
It’s always a balance. Last night I went out to meet friends. Given how I was feeling I considered cancelling but decided to go. Seeing my friends, who I haven’t seen in a long time, was just what I needed, and I was home by 10.15pm.
And the important thing when doing all of this is not to carry any guilt when you do decide to change your plans or say no. Own your decision, know you’re doing the right thing for you. And don’t worry about other people’s reactions to your decision. I know this one is hard but if you’re coming from a place of kindness, and doing the right thing for yourself that’s OK.
I’d love to hear from you.
Do you find it hard saying no?
Do you still carry on doing things when you feel run down?
Pop your comments below.
And if you want a bit more on saying no and creating time for yourself, you can grab a copy of my guide 6 steps to creating balance; a working Mum’s guide to finding time for herself here.
Nicky is a registered nutritional therapist who takes an integrative approach that works on both the body and the mind. She’s passionate about teaching women (and Mums) to look after themselves first, so that they can be there for their children and have the energy for whatever life has in store.
Nicky qualified from The Institute for Optimum Nutrition in 2009 and is registered with The British Association for Nutrition and Lifestyle Medicine (BANT), and the Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC).