It’s supposed to be the day we celebrate love but it brings up so much in so many of us. 

If you’re on your own it can bring up resentment, fear, longing for something you don’t have. 

If you’re in a relationship the expectations can be high, and often unmet. 

There are all sorts of emotions around this one day, even if you don’t buy in to it, there’s still stuff there.

So I want to bring this back to you. 

To go in to yourself. 

To stop looking outside of yourself or for someone else to meet your needs. 

Yesterday I felt the pull of my heart, I needed love. So I ran myself a bath with rose geranium oil and rose petals. Yes completely over-the-top, completely indulgent.

But here’s the thing, I can wait for someone else to do it (and that’s the stuff fairy tales are made of) or I can do it for myself. And so I choose myself. 


Here’s an invitation to do something just for you, don’t wait for anyone else, do it for yourself.

Heart meditation

Sit down and get comfortable, lay down if you prefer

Take 3 deep breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth (really take your time, slow your breath right down)

Come in to yourself

Place your hands over you chest area, your heart chakra

Now picture your heart full of light

As you breathe you can see this light

Stay there for a few breaths, just being in the centre of your heart

Then imagine this light encompassing your whole body

Breathe the light around your body

Take a moment to bask in this light, feel it warming through your body

Feel the glow throughout, all coming from your heart

When you feel ready, when you’ve lingered long enough and you’ve felt the light running through you …

Finish with three more deep breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth

Open your eyes slowly and come back in to your room

Essential oils

Use some essential oils that are good for the heart, like rose or geranium.  Rose promotes relaxation, balance and harmony. There are also some lovely blends out there for the heart chakra.  Or simply choose a smell that you feel drawn to and pop it in an oil diffuser or put some with oil and rub it over your hands and chest.

Dark chocolate

Dark chocolate can be good for the heart and soul too.  Try some dark chocolate with raspberries, or some chocolate truffles (Booja Booja are my favourite) and savour the taste and flavour.

Rose quartz

The crystal of unconditional love. Rose quartz can help balance emotions and also help you stand firm in what you need for yourself.  This is a beautiful crystal and a lovely one to have by your side this month.

Buy yourself some flowers

Again don’t wait for someone else to buy them for you, treat yourself to a beautiful bunch of flowers and put them somewhere prominent, so that every time you see them you smile.

Run yourself a bath

I’d definitely recommend this and if you follow me on Instagram you’ll know that every chance I get I run myself a bath.  For me this is pure nourishment.  Light some candles, choose some oil and if you want to go that step further add some rose petals.  I know that it’s indulgent but that’s the point.  Indulge in yourself.

Ask for what you want

If you are in a relationship and there’s something you’d like, ask for it.  Ask for it without any expectations, release any attachment to the outcome.  Because it doesn’t mean that the other person will follow through but at least you’ve been clear.  So often we expect our needs to be met without actually voicing what they are.

Or simply ask yourself what would feel good for you, and do it for yourself.

Bring it back to you and this isn’t just for this week, or this one day, learn to do this for yourself, regularly, all the time.

Sending lots of love to you all this Valentine’s day.

Nicky Duffell
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Nicky Duffell

Nutritional Therapist and Transformation Coach

‘Everything you need is within you’

Nicky is a registered nutritional therapist and certified coach who takes an integrative approach that works on both the body and the mind. Nicky brings together nutritional therapy, functional medicine and powerful coaching techniques to treat the WHOLE you. She’s passionate about life, and noticing the little things it has to offer, even when it’s hard.

Nicky qualified from The Institute for Optimum Nutrition in 2009 and is registered with The British Association for Nutrition and Lifestyle Medicine (BANT), and the Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC).

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